People might not see anything special from the relationship of marriage and gender other than man and woman falling in love and decided to get married. However, it become a big issues when statistic proves that at least 50% American marriage does not works and will ended up with divorce. It is sound pathetic when people has to spent a lot of money, big effort and big future plan that later on will be given up. Especially when married couple with kids has to separated, it might effect and give big impact on children psychology. One of the main issues that recently became a topic discussion in many local television is an issues that raised from equal gender. It is not a bad thing that woman and man has an equal in house hold as a married couple, however some woman wrongly interpret it in their relationship. At the first time woman emancipation came is because woman has no right to have higher education and not allowed to work. So, most of woman is staying at home and do house hold working. Nowadays, woman and man are treated the same and there is no more discrimination about gender in society.
Equalization in gender is more popular in Western country such as America, Australia, and Europe. So, it is a popular saying that 'woman not even want to make a sandwich for her partner'. That where i found it a bit odd, since in Asian country, woman that working full time job, will still cooking and serve their partner in respect and it become a crucial thing in relationship. It looks like there are boundary between woman and man, where man has higher position in house hold. In context that there are no more discrimination from man or husband to wife or woman in the house, most of woman would like to do the house hold job in their own will and there is not a problem that i found from doing those thing as long as the wife is not under pressure.
However, i watched 60 Minutes Australia the other day and one of the topic is about an Australian lady and her Mexican husband been marred for 10 years and on the period of time she is always cooking 5 meals a day for her husband and do house hold working. she stated that she is happy what she doing and her marriage is a wonderful thing that happened in to her life as well as he husband. Then start the host of the show stated that her husband has changed her into his slave. This discussion continued into 60 Minutes facebook homepage, and 90% of woman that commented on the issues is abusing her and agreed that she has became a slave of his husband. in the other hand, small percentage of woman disagreed, and one of the woman stated ' i adore my man. i have no problem cooking, cleaning, buying his favorite food. Making sure i look my best when i am with him and he is so proud and supportive of me. I treat him like a king and in exchange i am comforted, spoiled, loved, and adored. Wanting to be your best for someone you love is nothing to be ashamed of.'
It might be sounds 'old school' that woman doing those kind a thing for man, but it built something in relationship, that is respect. Most of woman that fail in their marriage, agree that their relationship were built in tension and no respect such as swearing and abusing. Being in relationship is not only about love, sex, and money as people though, it is not easy at all. As long as there are respect and understanding to listen and to be listened, the relationship would be last long. It also might the least that couple could do to hold the relationship. However, this is not the only issues that come up in relationship. There are many more ups and downs in relationship; that will be better to be solved using two peoples 'brain' as a team.
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