Whiterose Love Pt2

Whiterose love Pt2 

This tale was told me years ago. While the lesson remain vivid and deeply in my heart although the name of the tellers of this story had been lost by time.In this life there are a lot of what happened is not the same as you like, but each of us still have to learn to accept these facts the flat. Learn to either live with, or are beyond the pain that it caused.

That day She (Marry) was a good girl and very beautiful, She was born into a wealthy family, if not rich. And he (Michal )too, he is a smart guy, skill and fitness. They studied together in a primary school until the end of high school. He and she were good friends and always as an identical pair. Michal loves sports, active and gentle, and Marry is meek and timid. She loves romance and she especially loves flowers ,especially white roses. White rose is the fulfillment of her ,with her it become only choice in any occasion. She loves white roses, perhaps because of the pure and noble that they well up. They often had  same lessons and general homework, so they become a pair of close friends, very close. They often shared lunch, sometimes just a candy. Everyday they came to school and went home after classes together. They helped each other in learning and became best friend in school. They used to be headed in every subject. And that is the pride of his family and her family that day. Its becomes too proud of ordinary on student's life . As time went by so fast, they had to leave school and time for university entranced. Michal has to leave his country to study in other country by the suggestion of his father. On the day Michal flied , Marry did not sad and did not cry, she was happy for his better future. Three months later she also had to leave her country, leave her family and her little paradise to went to oversea to study,too. So they were living so far each other. First few months they used to asked and cared each other by mail , letter .... But the letter was sent less over time and the time they spent to  each other was limited by line time , probably because we were too busy of studying oversea, it may be because we are too busy with new life ........

(To be continued)
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Whiterose Love Pt.1

Life is a story .The goal of every human being to live in such a way that his or her story becomes a source of inspiration and emotional empowerment to other. Basic on the value of life that s called Relationship. Every single story of life has related to real life in some views. Stories have a magical power. They would allow us to look at ourselves in relation to other people. Stories also can pump up us and help us do to what it takes or make our dreams come true .

Life is a collection of the various things people do and say . Therefore when we read or hear a tale we could imaging that ..”…if something happened to them , it could happened to me on one day…”.Keeping and reminding that status in mind to join in the forms of behavior that are appropriate. Heart what is the meaning of heart. No one can get a perfect definition of heart .
We can say something inspirational such as Heart = Happiness, Hurt , Healthy , Hell , Heaven ….or whatever can cause emotion …..
The foundation of life is Relationship .No one can stand out and say ..”hey look ..i do not have any relationship ..” that just a stupid status ever .Cause when we was born we already had a relationship with mum and dad . We are continues building a relationship while we growth up such as family relationship , partner relationship , school relationship , or love relationship …or whatever .We have selected some of stories of life which related on relationship as a special gift to you. We give the following stories to you with only one purpose in mind : to inspire and rekindle your spirit and uplift your everyday sights.

( To be continued ...)

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Long Distance Relationship

I met Layla on February 12, 2000.

That moment when we spent our first weekend together, That moment when i felt being the most luckiest man because  i met her entire family and that moment when we decided to start on the crazy up and down journey of long distance relationship.

We have to go back another three years to start the true beginning of the story. Layla and i were in senior high school, Unfortunately she living in Los Angeles and me in New York, and we came across each other on Friendster. We became "friends" simply because trivial reason. We liking the same favorite movie pages. And that’s where it all began.

For a few months later we graduated from high school and still we were simply being "friends" and interacted very little (we were so busy with new college). Eventually i deactivated my Friendster account and moved on to bigger and better things called Facebook. Layla followed suit later and i bet she tried to search me who she vaguely remembered was cute and by Ryan M. She found me and sent a message, " hey are you ryan michael? i think i remember you from friendster. if not, then ignore this message." i remembered her actually, we frequently discussed the latest movie in discussion forum and although I thought it a bit strange, i added her back anyway. Again, for a long time we interacted very little.

It was a hot summer night in mid july 1998, Without we even realized our conversation became more intense. We enjoyed commenting on each other’s photos and statuses.We began talking even more in early 1999 - a couple Facebook chats, a few messages. Then i encouraged my self to make a phone call and i'm completely freaked out. i never met this girl before and what scared me the most was that i actually really enjoyed our talks. We were going strong and she always made me happy. I told my parents about her and they strongly suggested we have to meet. So six months after we began talking, i bought flight's ticket from Los Angeles to New York.

Neither of us got sleep much sleep that night.

When i walked into the airport she was there waiting for me. i still remembered clearly in my mind. i was too overwhelmed then i quickly blurted that i need to pee and ran to restroom as soon as possible. after that we hugged and said a couple awkward things however i can tell our first few hours together went surprisingly well.

The following day, i met her entire family. The next day which is 14 february 2000 we went on our first date at The River Cafe, the breathtaking view of the Manhattan skyline sets the romantic mood. Delicious food and plenty of ambiance and we've got the perfect spot for a little canoodling. It's well worth a trip to Brooklyn. We enjoyed each other just as much as we’d anticipated.

We decided to continue dating even though it meant long distance. She made her first trip to Los Angeles in January 2001. We had a great time exploring each other’s states and getting to know each other better. Interestingly we always found ways to visit during our relationship. "where there’s a will there’s a way,"  California, Illinois, Chicago, Miami all of these and more were the places we managed to visit one another.

After graduating, i moved to New York and became a junior lawyer. It was a big adjustment for me but definitely worth it. We loved living a couple blocks from each other and do things we couldn’t before.

One year after moving  we made Plan a trip to Hawaii. When she gets off the plane, i prepared a few luau girls waiting with a sign saying “Will you marry me?”, some leis and some nice champagne. It was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. And on April 29th, 2005 we married in Los angeles.

Having Dictator Parents

Dictator parents mean parent have a sole and absolute power to control their children life. This kind of parent s will arrange everything for their child from education, friendship, daily routine even hobbies. They will set their kids future without ask their concern. Even though they have a good purpose for doing it but sometimes in some cases these kind of treatment will bring a bad or disadvantages to their children. In this article we will go through what is the effect of dictator parents and how to solve this problem.

The first thing that we need to remember is most of dictator parents  doing this treatment because they love their child and they want their kids to received the best in the future. However by arrange everything will give less freedom of expression for their kids. These teenager or young adult will became too dependence to their parents. Just imagine what will happen when their parents die, they will feel lost and does not know what they should do because usually their parents will arrange everything for them. Second is in some cases these types of parents will make their children more rebellious. Maybe some kids can accept to have dictator parents in their life but some cannot accept it. These teenagers who cannot accept being “locked in the cage” will try to break free and doing what they think is right. The worst cases is they will found a fun in drugs, alcohol, or free sex. 

To solve this problem, both parents and kids side need to have be more understanding and open mind of the opinion. Dictators parents need to be more open minded and think about their kids want. On the other hand the children need to become more passion and remember to respect their parent no matter what.  Talk to your parents slowly and give a reasonable reason, if your parents still cannot accept your opinion then don’t be angry or mad because sometimes what our parents say is right and  remember they have more experience than us.

Parenting Style

There are significant impact on child development that linked with parenting style. However, seeking for the link between the cause and effect is not easy due to specific action on parenting that later on will impact child's behaviours. in fact there are important dimensions on parenting, which are :

1. Disciplinary
2. Nurture
3. Communication
4. Expectation of the future

According to those dimensions, there are four majority parenting style, which are :

1. Authoritarian Parenting, where the parent established strict rules that later on, if the child fail to do what they has been told to do, they will get punish. This type of parenting has highly controllable and poor responsive to the child.
2. Authoritative Parenting, where rules developed by parents, however parents are much democratic and want to listen to child. parents has high control either high responsive to the child.
3. Permissive Parenting, situation when parents is act and play a role as a friend to their child because parents seems like to avoid confrontation from the kids. This type of parenting style led to poor control by parents but high responsive.
4. Uninvolved Parenting, situation when parent has less communication, low control, and low responsive. In extreme case, parents neglecting their children.

Each parenting style has different impact to children, such as :

1. Children more obedient and proficient, low happiness, social competence, and high self esteem under authoritarian parents.
2. Children happy, capable, and successful. Also, children can control their emotional and can cope with stress under authoritative parents.
3. Children under permissive parents most likely to low in happiness, self regulation, poor in school, and has more authority than other children.
4. Uninvolved parents create children that has low esteem, less competent, and lack of self control.

Most of parents definitely has the reason to have different style of parenting, such as due to culture, personality, family size, parental experience, social-economic status, educational level, and religion. However, all parents would like to help their children shape their personality, pattern their health and behaviours, and more important is for future well being.

Marriage, Gender, & Problems

People might not see anything special from the relationship of marriage and gender other than man and woman falling in love and decided to get married. However, it become a big issues when statistic proves that at least 50% American marriage does not works and will ended up with divorce. It is sound pathetic when people has to spent a lot of money, big effort and big future plan that later on will be given up. Especially when married couple with kids has to separated, it might effect and give big impact on children psychology. One of the main issues that recently became a topic discussion in many local television is an issues that raised from equal gender. It is not a bad thing that woman and man has an equal in house hold as a married couple, however some woman wrongly interpret it in their relationship. At the first time woman emancipation came is because woman has no right to have higher education and not allowed to work. So, most of woman is staying at home and do house hold working. Nowadays, woman and man are treated the same and there is no more discrimination about gender in society.

Equalization in gender is more popular in Western country such as America, Australia, and Europe. So, it is a popular saying that 'woman not even want to make a sandwich for her partner'. That where i found it a bit odd, since in Asian country, woman that working full time job, will still cooking and serve their partner in respect and it become a crucial thing in relationship. It looks like there are boundary between woman and man, where man has higher position in house hold. In context that there are no more discrimination from man or husband to wife or woman in the house, most of woman would like to do the house hold job in their own will and there is not a problem that i found from doing those thing as long as the wife is not under pressure.

However, i watched 60 Minutes Australia the other day and one of the topic is about an Australian lady and her Mexican husband been marred for 10 years and on the period of time she is always cooking 5 meals a day for her husband and do house hold working. she stated that she is happy what she doing and her marriage is a wonderful thing that happened in to her life as well as he husband. Then start the host of the show stated that her husband has changed her into his slave. This discussion continued into 60 Minutes facebook homepage, and 90% of woman that commented on the issues is abusing her and agreed that she has became a slave of his husband. in the other hand, small percentage of woman disagreed, and one of the woman stated ' i adore my man. i have no problem cooking, cleaning, buying his favorite food. Making sure i look my best when i am with him and he is so proud and supportive of me. I treat him like a king and in exchange i am comforted, spoiled, loved, and adored. Wanting to be your best for someone you love is nothing to be ashamed of.'

It might be sounds 'old school' that woman doing those kind a thing for man, but it built something in relationship, that is respect. Most of woman that fail in their marriage, agree that their relationship were built in tension and no respect such as swearing and abusing. Being in relationship is not only about love, sex, and money as people though, it is not easy at all. As long as there are respect and understanding to listen and to be listened, the relationship would be last long. It also might the least that couple could do to hold the relationship. However, this is not the only issues that come up in relationship. There are many more ups and downs in relationship; that will be better to be solved using two peoples 'brain' as a team.

Introduction

Hi :) We are a group of ISYS students in Macquarie University City campus, we called our group as 'White Rose'.Because we love white rose .Its pure and peace like  an student life .
Our Group members are :

1. Yarmy Tran
2. Rossiana Dewi Kandou
3. Mella Merina
4. Andree Djaya

We discussing about relationship on this blog, since we have high interest in topic about relationship.We think relationship is really important . Its seem like  glass which is easy to break .So we have respect and care about it .We trying to do our best on this assignment with posting many article related to our topic, regulary. We decided to use this layout cause it look beauty  and perfectly match with us topic .So, for all the reader, PLEASE ENJOY !!